I’ve been thinking about overwhelm recently and one thing I’ve noticed is that, when I experience worry or dread, I’m often projecting myself waaaaaaay into the future and, while some think that this is helpful, for me it’s not. It’s bloody terrifying.
I think about all the things that can go wrong and, because I’m thinking way, sorry,
This is not a good mindset to have when navigating
Here’s the thing, it’s hard to pass on the chocolate bar if you’re thinking
“OH MY GOD! I’m not allowed to eat chocolate ever again. I’ll never be able to keep that up – I never stick to diets…I might as well just eat it now…”
Always. Forever. Never again.
These are terrifying time frames.
How about we change them for something more palatable (though, sadly, not as palatable as the chocolate bar).
How about we swap them for “TODAY”?
So, instead of demanding that we never eat chocolate EVER AGAIN, we ask ourselves to just skip it TODAY.
Tomorrow, we can see how we feel, but, for today, let’s just focus on lasting 24 hours without chocolate…or your Xbox…or without thinking sexual thoughts about Richard Hammond…
Let’s just skip it for today.
There’s very little FOMO because we can appreciate how soon tomorrow – and the potential of chocolate, gaming or lewd thoughts about diminutive TV stars – will arrive.
We’re still missing out, but not as much – only today.
There’s a chapter in Dale Carnegie’s “How to stop worrying and start living” in which he talks about living in day-tight compartments to help ease the worry. By only thinking about what you can do today, you stop yourself from needlessly worrying about a multitude of potential (and maybe unlikely) futures.
I think this is also a great solution to overwhelm.
Instead of always looking at the grand vision of where you want to be in life (or if you’re being pessimistic, where you THINK you should be), you just look at what you can do today to make progress.
Not this week, month or year (though there is a place for that), just today.
What can you do today?