“I’m not a maths person, no one in my family has ever been good at maths…”
“Stop shouting at me, Frank. I told you I can’t draw. Besides, it’s just F****** Pictionary!!!”
We all know people who say that they are not ______ type people. “Never have been, never will” is their motto.
Possessing a brain that can somehow manage to correctly form and develop the complicated human processes and systems needed to survive, but not quite up to the Herculean task of working out how much cheese and bread would total from Lidl.
As Carol Dweck would say, these people are “fucking deluded” (that’s Carol Dweck, my neighbour, who has a bit of a potty mouth).
As the REAL Carol Dweck (the researcher and author of “Mindset: Changing The Way You think To Fulfil Your Potential”) would say, these people have a “fixed” mindset – whatever function they have now is what they are stuck with until they die.
The reality is far more simple – everything is trainable.
We can get better if we choose to.
Sure, there are different learning speeds, natural abilities and physical and mental elements at play, but every single skill is learnable. No one comes out of the womb masterfully playing the violin (if they did, I would imagine it would make for an awkward birth, at best).
Name a skill. You CAN do it, better than you can now, but only if you put the effort in.
You can’t just obstinately state that you can’t meditate, because you’ve never been able to sit still.
Sure, you may not be as good as that chap over there – the one in the loincloth, floating above the ground, but you CAN do it, even if just for a second. And then you can get better.
Brace yourself, because I’m going to quote from “The Science of Getting Rich”, by Wallace Wattles:
“you can develop any rudimentary talent, and there is no talent of which you have not at least the rudiment.”
You can sing, run, drive and resuscitate frogs (not all at the same time, though that would make for an interesting accident report).
And yes, you might actually suck at each of these things, but you CAN do it, to some extent, even if that extent is “woeful”.
The best in the world at something was, at one time, the absolute worst in the world at that same thing.
There was a time when Tiger Woods couldn’t hit a golf ball.
There was a time when Lady Gaga couldn’t hit a note.
There was a time when Katie Price couldn’t hit the front page of Heat magazine.
If you want to get better at something, you can. The real question then becomes, “what do you want to get better at?”
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